Love that seems lost
I have old-fashioned values when it comes to love and here is what I mean by this, I’ve been learning a lot about relationships and interactions over the years watching and observing couples, the failures and successes within my own relationships. I am noticing a common theme to lasting relationships. As I work with clients who are together their whole adult lives they share their secrets of lasting love with me. It’s beautiful listening to their stories.
They don’t leave when things get hard….. Relationships will have periods of time where separation and growth doesn’t align. It can cause disruption in relations with one another and this is often when people separate. When the going gets tough. The ones I speak to, who have been married their whole lives stay together during this time. Sometimes they take more space but never leave or find a way to reconnect with one another during these growths.
Now I don’t have perfect advice as a woman with two failed marriages. I do know what real love feels like now. And know what it takes to keep it going for the long haul. It takes choosing one another again and again. Through the challenges of life, love and sadness. Keep choosing one another.
To me, love is something sacred. I am total romantic! When I care for someone I go all in…! I believe in showing up with intent and consistency. Taking the time to truly know one another deeply. So that when something is off I can show up. I believe in affection and care… allowing the bond to grow with time. I am loyal perhaps to a fault at times… After-all our shadows can also be our strengths…
I believe in handwritten notes, thoughtful gestures, lingering conversations, acts of kindness or service for no particular reason, I love the sweetness of being chosen by my partner with intention. That is such a wonderful feeling.
I believe in being devoted to one another—not because love is an obligation, but because when your heart is truly invested, caring for each other becomes something beautiful and natural. It’s such a powerful union.
I value loyalty, gentleness, respect, affection, family, and the quiet comfort of building a life together.
I love the masculinity that a man brings to the partnership knowing that our polarities can balance each other. I don’t expect perfection I expect devotion and choosing to keep love alive. None of us are perfect. Love lasts when we can love one another in our most imperfect states… it’s beautiful and messy.
I believe love should feel like friendship, admiration, tenderness, and home all at once.
Which it does. It feels like home.
And perhaps most of all, I still believe in the beauty of two people choosing to grow together—to celebrate each other, protect what they share, and create something meaningful that becomes deeper with time.
Maybe that’s old-fashioned or maybe it’s just real…
But I think there is something incredibly beautiful about loving with your whole heart, with intention, and with the hope of forever, with sharing that sacred union of knowing each other so well.
In today’s day, dating becomes difficult with the instant gratification and constant, what if there is someone better mentality.
The second things get challenging it’s easy to move on. But honestly does that mean the intention of relationship was there in the first place?
I know there are men and woman out there desiring and sharing this connection. I believe this will heal the separation that society is experiencing these days. After all more love in this world makes a better world.
Men and women need to find each other again… in sacred unions of love. I still believe in love. I believe in the balance my masculine partner brings to me.
My intentions of partnership are unwavering. I will wait for love with connection before I ever choose meaningless interactions with my intimacy.
Freyja Hawthorn
Peaceful Horizons Wellness
